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My top five tips for having a long distance relationship…

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for nearly a year now (although we weren’t technically, and by this I mean Facebook, official until December). So maybe I’m not quite an expert in the field yet but I feel like I’ve learned a few things.

1) The absence of the label means nothing

So we started off as ‘seeing how it goes’ and ‘we’ll wait ’til I get back’. Realistically, if you’re going to talk everyday, not see other people and make plans for the future then you may as well admit that you are a couple despite the distance.

All not having the official title does is make for awkward conversations where you don’t really know what to refer to each other as and neither of you really know where you stand. If you want to be together, just do it, you can figure out the rest later.

2) Try not to go completely insane

This is a tricky one.

By the time I’d spent a few months living 3000 miles away from my boyfriend I was definitely beginning to question my sanity. Apart from missing him a lot I also found myself just getting pretty pissed off with him somewhat irrationally.

I’ve subsequently found out from talking with other people that this is pretty normal, still, try and avoid it if you can. Remember that it’s hard for them too and just take a few deep breaths or something…I don’t know, I pretty much did go insane last year so I’m not sure I’m qualified to help with this one.

3) Plan the time of distance when one of you isn’t going to be going through a particularly stressful period

I moved away when my boyfriend went into his final year at uni. This meant a lot of pressure, regular deadlines and  a 10,000 word dissertation to write. I like to think I was as supportive as possible but it’s a lot harder to do that from 3000 miles away than from the same city, or at least the same country when you can actually pick up the phone and call each other.

I think that we’re a bit more prepared for it this year, now that it’s me dealing with all that pressure, but in an ideal situation we’d be able to see each other more often than a weekend here and there! Obviously a long distance couple may not have much control over when the distance is taking place so when dealing with added pressures refer back to tip #2.

4) TRUST EACHOTHER

If you don’t trust the other person and you’re living far away from each other then you will drive yourself insane. Either sort yourself out and work out why you don’t trust them or break up, it’s never going to work and it’ll be torture. Actually that’s kind of true of all relationships.

5) Try and look at the positives


Yeah yeah so it’s really hard and miserable and you’d do anything to see them sometimes BUT there are actually some good things about have a long distance relationship.

All that missing each other means that when you do finally see them it’s super great and way more exciting than if you just saw them everyday. Despite being together for nearly a year I don’t feel like we’ve really left the really embarrassing sappy stage of the relationship…which I suppose is a little unfortunate for those around us. Not only that but, as cheesy as it sounds, if you can get through this, you can get through anything.

Urgh I’m cringing so hard at myself right now but this is what love does to you…apparently.

That’s all for now

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8 thoughts on “My top five tips for having a long distance relationship…

  1. This is great advice. I think another good point is that long distance relationships are not for everyone. I know I personally cannot do it. I need someone to be physically there with me and if they are not, then the relationship is completely pointless to me. But on the other hand, I have a friend whose only successful relationships have been long distance! It’s very interesting to see how it works for some people, but not for others!

    xo Megan, LushtoBlush.com

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    • You’re right, it’s not always the right choice, I guess in the situation you’ll just know whether it’s the right thing for you personally or not…I always thought it was a ridiculous idea until I was in this situation! Thanks for your comment 😀

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  2. The insanity thing is so true. I was in a long distance relationship for two years and then again for the past two months and, it was like I didn’t learn anything the first time lol. I definitely got really upset, somewhat irrationally, had unrealistic expectations, and I really let little things get to me. All in all I have concluded that I’m just not good for LDRs, I am needy, but if I find myself in a place like that again, where I have to do the long distance thing I really will try to remember your list lol. Thanks for sharing!

    Miche from Buttons and Birdcages

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    • Thanks for your comment! Sometimes it definitely drives you a little crazy, and it is so hard to maintain a sense of balance when you’re just desperate to see them!

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